Coping with change

The institution of family as the shelter for aging is gradually being eroded. There are growing examples of children leaving their parents to live elsewhere- be it abroad or to live separately, as is the general trend in the current scenario of our present times. Children have no time to look after their parents because of their busy schedule and as a consequence of this situation the elders are getting neglected. In their sunset years almost all elders need some kind of support. The general mentality of people today is that they do not need bother to follow these very important and necessary moral duties. It seems that this concept is slowly finding its way throughout our society, which is a cause for alarm. As a consequence of this situation people are slowly forgetting their moral and ethical duties towards their parents. Children have no time to look after their parents because of their busy schedule.

This has caused a major portion of the elder population to consider relocation to a new environment; most of the parents are now deciding to live in old age homes rather than living with their children. This move is generally associated with enmity, uncertainty, loss of old familiar friends and locality, the stress of making new friends and adjusting and altering in unfamiliar surroundings for the elders. Even the women, who have conventionally been the care givers in the home, are facing new challenges due to the changing role of women in our society. Working women whether they are daughters or daughter-in-law, have due demands of mother hood, added with the demands of a career and the care they give for the elderly.

Our Indian culture recognizes the status of the parents as that of God.  A moral duty is put on the children to take care of their parents, a tradition of ancient times carried down over the generations. Now because of fast pace of life, industrialization, money oriented minds, inflation etc, children have no time to look after their parents

What do elders do in such situations? Do type in your comments on what would you do if you were to face a similar situation.

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  1. Philip Posner

    I have already taken up a second innings to be able to manage the upkeep of my wife and myself independently and I would definitely encourage every healthy, determined and able bodied elder to follow suit. Not all elders need have to depend on their children for sustenance. Not only does my second innings enable self-sufficiency it definitely keeps away the burden of boredom of joblessness which settles in after having completed a lustrous and active period of life in service, be it what it may. Believe me there is no better way to keep the mind and body active and thereby ensure a healthy and active way of ageing.

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